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<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n\u00a0<\/p>\nSurrender<\/h2>\nWhen you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn battlefield, or a white flag waving in the wind.\u00a0 Perhaps it is the human history of conflict that leads us, traditionally, to view surrender more as a weakness than a strength.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAllow me to share another side of surrender, which I\u2019ve come to know as a powerful spiritual practice, offering peace of mind when facing uncertainty, and freedom with your thorniest of challenges. Surrender, as I now understand it, means to let go.\u00a0 It means to release control and let go of worry about how things should <\/em>go, or how something is supposed to<\/em> work out.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Practical.\u00a0 It Benefits You Most When Facing Challenges<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYou can apply surrender when it feels like you just have to<\/em> know all the details in order to relax, or your efforts to try to control something or someone seem to be causing you stress or anxiety.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLife also has a way of thrusting us into opportunities to surrender, whether we \u2018re ready for it or not: a loved one falls ill; you get fired from your job, or your company goes under; a close friend tells you they are moving across the country. \u00a0These are challenging moments when the temptation is to resist it – to wish it were not true.\u00a0 The opportunity to surrender meets you in that moment when you\u2019re facing something you don\u2019t want, yet you know you ultimately can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWater as a Symbol for Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn battlefield, or a white flag waving in the wind.\u00a0 Perhaps it is the human history of conflict that leads us, traditionally, to view surrender more as a weakness than a strength.<\/p>\n
Allow me to share another side of surrender, which I\u2019ve come to know as a powerful spiritual practice, offering peace of mind when facing uncertainty, and freedom with your thorniest of challenges. Surrender, as I now understand it, means to let go.\u00a0 It means to release control and let go of worry about how things should <\/em>go, or how something is supposed to<\/em> work out.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Practical.\u00a0 It Benefits You Most When Facing Challenges<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYou can apply surrender when it feels like you just have to<\/em> know all the details in order to relax, or your efforts to try to control something or someone seem to be causing you stress or anxiety.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLife also has a way of thrusting us into opportunities to surrender, whether we \u2018re ready for it or not: a loved one falls ill; you get fired from your job, or your company goes under; a close friend tells you they are moving across the country. \u00a0These are challenging moments when the temptation is to resist it – to wish it were not true.\u00a0 The opportunity to surrender meets you in that moment when you\u2019re facing something you don\u2019t want, yet you know you ultimately can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWater as a Symbol for Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Surrender is Practical.\u00a0 It Benefits You Most When Facing Challenges<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYou can apply surrender when it feels like you just have to<\/em> know all the details in order to relax, or your efforts to try to control something or someone seem to be causing you stress or anxiety.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLife also has a way of thrusting us into opportunities to surrender, whether we \u2018re ready for it or not: a loved one falls ill; you get fired from your job, or your company goes under; a close friend tells you they are moving across the country. \u00a0These are challenging moments when the temptation is to resist it – to wish it were not true.\u00a0 The opportunity to surrender meets you in that moment when you\u2019re facing something you don\u2019t want, yet you know you ultimately can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWater as a Symbol for Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? 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You can apply surrender when it feels like you just have to<\/em> know all the details in order to relax, or your efforts to try to control something or someone seem to be causing you stress or anxiety.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLife also has a way of thrusting us into opportunities to surrender, whether we \u2018re ready for it or not: a loved one falls ill; you get fired from your job, or your company goes under; a close friend tells you they are moving across the country. \u00a0These are challenging moments when the temptation is to resist it – to wish it were not true.\u00a0 The opportunity to surrender meets you in that moment when you\u2019re facing something you don\u2019t want, yet you know you ultimately can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWater as a Symbol for Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? 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Life also has a way of thrusting us into opportunities to surrender, whether we \u2018re ready for it or not: a loved one falls ill; you get fired from your job, or your company goes under; a close friend tells you they are moving across the country. \u00a0These are challenging moments when the temptation is to resist it – to wish it were not true.\u00a0 The opportunity to surrender meets you in that moment when you\u2019re facing something you don\u2019t want, yet you know you ultimately can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n
Water as a Symbol for Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/iframe>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? 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The image of a river comes up a lot for me when I think about Surrender.<\/p>\n
The Hopi people of the modern American southwest have a way of telling stories with rich, vivid imagery.\u00a0 Water, the lifeblood of the earth, is a prominent feature in their folklore.\u00a0 Here is my interpretation one of the most powerful stories (actually a Hopi prophecy) that beautifully illustrates surrender:<\/p>\n
<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t
<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurvival and the Thinking Mind<\/strong><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nOn the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\nOriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThe currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWe too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nAttempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nTwo Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? 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On the winding river of life, it\u2019s predictable that we\u2019ll want to ask the typical questions: Where am I going? When will I get there? This is part of our nature – we want know how it\u2019s all going to play out so we can prepare, be aware, and feel a sense of control.We are comfortable when we have the details, and generally uncomfortable when we don\u2019t. <\/p>\n
Oriented around our survival, our self-focused mind serves us well. We are hard-wired to fight, flee, or freeze.Developing a practice of surrender is a tool to counteract this hard-wired reaction when facing life\u2019s uncertainties. <\/p>\n
The currency of surrender is flow. Imagine sitting on a riverbank and observing the water flowing past you. Water naturally makes its way around obstacles like branches and rocks. <\/p>\n
We too, can flow like water, when we learn to flow with life as it\u2019s coming at us versus holding on to expectations. <\/p>\n
Attempting to force an outcome, like putting pressure on a child to follow a specific career path, or trying to control someone\u2019s behavior to our liking \u2013 is like holding onto the shore when the current is trying to carry us down the river. I believe that these attempts to hold on tight to what it used to be like, or what \u201cshould be\u201d are a major source of discontent.<\/p>\n
Two Misconceptions about Surrender<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\nYou may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThis is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\nIt\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nYet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIn other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
1) Surrender doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re like a feather floating in the wind, twisting at the whim of the slightest breeze.<\/p>\n
You may have heard before that courage is not the absence of fear \u2013 it is acting in spite of fear. It takes courage to surrender, which isn\u2019t a passive practice \u2013 it involves consciously letting go of the tight, white-knuckled grip of what you\u2019ve been trying to control.<\/p>\n
This is surrender \u2013 continuing to act in line with your own personal truth, while letting go with awareness of what you can\u2019t control after you act. <\/p>\n
Surrender does not mean giving up, or ceasing activity. Surrender means continuing on your journey without getting so wrapped up in how things turn out that you stop in your tracks. You CAN control your actions. You cannot control the outcomes of those actions.<\/p>\n
2) Not caring is not surrender.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s easy to surrender when we\u2019re not really invested in the outcome. It takes no courage at all to kick our feet up on a sturdy raft, tilt our head back and close our eyes when life is flowing like a lazy river. When everything seems to be flowing nicely, of course you want the status quo.<\/p>\n
Yet the river of life winds around twists and turns that we can\u2019t always anticipate.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s when your river is rushing, when the current of life has you turned around backwards and you hear the roar of the rapids approaching \u2013 THIS is when surrender is the most challenging, yet the most freeing. <\/p>\n
In other words, when something (or someone else) REALLY matters to you \u2013 this is when surrender really counts.<\/em> It may seem counterintuitive, but this is the inflection point when we must learn to let go if we want to experience the freedom and peace of mind of being carried by the current. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nSurrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? 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Surrender is Impossible Without Trust<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\nBeyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nHaving recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nDespite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\nI trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nI finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nThough my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLet Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
When I boarded a one-way flight to Iquitos, Peru in the Amazon Rainforest, I was taking the first leap of my mature adult life into surrender. <\/p>\n
I still had plenty of questions \u2013 where would I go next? What am I going to do when I run out of money? How is my Spanish going to hold up? <\/p>\n
Beyond those immediate concerns, larger questions loomed in my mind: doubts about leaving a relationship, feelings of regret for having given up the lease on a home I loved, a car, and a comfortable life and enriching community in San Diego. The next steps in my career were not clear, and the bigger picture of my future seemed hazy.<\/p>\n
Having recently read Michael Singer\u2019s book \u201cThe Surrender Experiment,\u201d it hit me as the plane rumbled down the runway in Mexico City that the elixir of unsettling feelings and racing excitement could be exactly what he was referring to. <\/p>\n
I had images of lush, green rainforest in my mind, but beyond that, I had no idea what I was going to find, let alone what my \u201cplan\u201d was after visiting the Amazon. Having no plan was quite confronting, and very unlike me.<\/p>\n
Despite the unsettling thoughts that made me question my sanity to leave all that I knew behind, I did have one thing that helped me immensely. It was TRUST.<\/p>\n
I trusted my friend Sebastian, who I was meeting in Peru. I trusted a mantra I had come to know through my faith, that, “We are always provided for.” I trusted my curiosity that led me to read countless articles and watch documentaries about the Amazon. This rainforest, known as the lungs of our planet, had been luring me for ten years. I sensed this vibrantly alive, sacred place was going to play a role in my life. I had been putting off going until it was the \u201cright time.\u201d <\/p>\n
I finally trusted that feeling deep inside that I now know as my intuition. I have come to know intuition as my North Star for navigating the unknowns of life.<\/p>\n
Though my heart raced as the plane climbed into the clouds, the cars, buildings and trees becoming distant dots below, I felt this deeply satisfying sense that I was honoring something in my soul which had given me a simple command: GO. I was finally willing to listen to that inner voice because of trust.<\/p>\n
Let Go and Let Life Flow<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nLike anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nWhen you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\nIt may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Like anything, learning to surrender can be cultivated and become a habit. This is not about mastery. I am still discovering how to truly let go, and that\u2019s okay. <\/p>\n
When you catch yourself trying to control outcomes \u2013 pause. Ask yourself, am I flowing with life? Or am I gripping tightly to the known?<\/p>\n
It may not seem easy, but having experienced the fruits of surrender on the other side of my fear, I can tell you that if you\u2019re patient, and willing to be compassionate with yourself in the process, you too can experience the freedom of surrender.<\/p>\n
<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
When you hear the word, \u201cSurrender,\u201d you might first think about giving up, or giving in.\u00a0 \u201cI surrender\u201d may conjure up the image of a war-torn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1762,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[18,17,19],"post_folder":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1761"}],"version-history":[{"count":31,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1833,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1761\/revisions\/1833"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1762"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1761"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1761"},{"taxonomy":"post_folder","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/andybayon.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/post_folder?post=1761"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}